Powerful Words to Build Your Teen’s Self-Esteem

08 October 2015

For some people, learning to love to yourself doesn’t come naturally, especially in women.

As babies, we are loved and adored.

As young children, we are cherished.

As teenagers, we begin to spread our wings and take on an independent role from our family and this is where the love begins to fade.

Is it at this stage parent’s stop being parents to their teenage children?

Is it at this stage teenagers stop listening to their parents?

One of the most critical times in determining your perceived self-worth is when you reach puberty and become a teenager.  Being a teenager in today’s society is like living in a glass bowl, there is always someone watching your every move. The immense pressure to be online, to be available 24 hours a day and to feed your online image has begun to take its toll on the modern teenager with a dramatic increase in mental illness such as depression and anxiety. This is the time teenagers need their parents more than ever, whether they understand this or not, to help build their self-esteem to cope with being a teen.

Teenagers don't like to be told what to do and especially hate being told they are doing wrong. In fact, most adults don't like to be told what they are doing wrong either. Building up your child’s self-esteem from a young age can help develop a strong inner relationship children need to have with themselves. Planting the seed from a young age about how your child should look at themselves in the world they love in, may ease the transition from childhood to adulthood.

Here are 5 powerful self-esteem boosters to say to your child that will last their lifetime:

If you are searching for that ONE special person to make you complete, all you need to do is look in the mirror.

YOU are that one special person, you will always be that one special person who can make your life what you want it to be. Believe in yourself always.

Real friends are the ones who get the best out of you.

It is wonderful having lots of friends, so choose those who want you to shine and want you to succeed no matter what. Give you heart to the friends who give their heart you and a solid foundation will be created.

Your mum actually does know a few things about growing up too.

I'm not saying she is always right but asking advice from your mum is not a bad thing. She can add another dimension to the situation. Times may have changed, but insecurities are often the same.

You are not defined by the person you are with, you are defined by the person you are.

Having a partner does not create self-worth. Being alone is not a bad thing and does not mean you are not loved, it simply means you have not found someone who deserves your love yet.

Get an education

Believing you deserve to be educated, to be in control of your own destiny allows opportunities to open up strive to be the best person you can be.


How do you help build your teen’s self-esteem? 

Written by

Natalie McNamara

Natalie is a busy mother to 4 children and is currently completing her Bachelor in Professional Writing and Publishing. Natalie has written 3 novels, all still under maintenance until the day their scaffolding can be removed to reveal genuine stories. Natalie enjoys writing about women’s issues and family connections at her blog Our Parallel Connection.

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