The characteristics that allow a child to be accepted in one situation may make them the subject of bullying in another.
For example, a smart, child may be accepted by his peers in one class, and then be bullied by another group for being too smart; or a child who isn’t clever is bullied for being behind in class, but is accepted by another group because of this trait.
It is therefore difficult to predict what factors may contribute to a child being bullied, but the more self-esteem and confidence a child has, the more resilience they will have if a bullying situation arises.
Here are a few suggestions to help raise your child’s confidence:
Ask you child to say the below affirmations, morning and night. They can copy the affirmations on to pretty paper with coloured pens and then stick them by their beds or on the bathroom mirror if they like.
I am confident in who I am.
I accept the group and the group accepts me.
I forgive others as I forgive myself.
Help your child understand that a child (or adult) doing bullying is unhappy and damaged and insecure, and that they must tell an adult if they feel any kind of bullying behaviour has occurred.
Ensure supervision of your child where possible – by yourself, a teacher or another adult, or even an older child. Encourage your child to communicate to people where any bullying might be taking place, so others are aware to be on the lookout for bullying behaviour.
What your child eats can affect their mood. Protein-rich foods such as fish, meat, chicken and eggs, and serotonin-rich foods such as turkey and dark chocolate help lift mood and promote self-confidence. What about a turkey sandwich and chunk of dark chocolate in their lunch box?
Supporting your child holistically and working with other members of their community can help prevent and discourage bullying behaviours.