WELLBEING: Ditch the dwelling, moving forward is key

01 August 2019

For women who are feeling stuck or going through a challenging time in life, the key is to continue moving forward in a new direction says life coach and author Danielle Simone.

Many women who have suffered a traumatic experience such as relationship and friendship breakdowns, death or if life hasn’t played out as they’d imagined, can be more harmful to dwell on the past than finding new ways forward.

“We can’t go back to the past, even if the past was better than your current situation. The only time we have is now and we can only move forward into the future,” said Simone.

“It is crucial for women recovering from difficult situations to keep their focus on the life they want to create going forward to ensure a healthy healing process".

Simone tackles this healing process by dividing life into four phases. One part can be defined as when things feel like they’re progressing and going well for us; another part is when nothing seems to go right and we fall until we hit rock bottom; the other two parts are the moments in between when we can see our lives crumbling, followed by hitting rock bottom when we learn that we need to try new ways to move towards good times again.

“This cycle can happen over a few months or years but also on a daily basis,” said Simone.

“How low we go is different for everyone but what we all have in common is we get to our lowest when we think we can’t go on. That’s the point when we need to make a decision and find a way to move forward. If we stay stuck and then spiral down even further, it can lead to people making negative choices that are not in alignment with their values or character.”

Often, after hitting rock bottom is when women are most open to finding new ways of doing things, Simone said. “This is the start of rebuilding confidence and self-esteem,” she said.

“This phase can often be the hardest to get through because our natural tendency is to resist change – it can be uncomfortable to face fears, learn new things and reassess values, but this is required to move forward.” In her life coaching,

Simone helps women to recognise and work through the four phases of recovering from traumatic experiences, allowing them to rebuild and move forward with a more positive mentality.

Simone helps her clients to feel empowered and find the courage to tackle obstacles, allowing them to achieve the life they desire.


Written by

Danielle Simone / founder of Create the home life you desire

Danielle Simone is an author, life coach, founder of Create the home life you desire and mother to five children. Through her own experiences of stress, conflict and disappointment, she has learned the necessary skills to create peace for herself and for her children.

After much research to understand human emotions and through much trial and error, Danielle was able to implement the necessary changes to finally find the peace she had sought.

Danielle doesn’t want any women to go through life without the necessary skills needed to care for themselves and their families and now works with women both married and single to implement small changes to move them into a life they are able to enjoy.


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