WELLBEING: Powerful words to empower children

14 May 2018

Adults often have little awareness of the impact of their spoken 
word – particularly when identifying which words can either disempower or 
empower children. 

With just a little careful focus, any parent can learn to select words which can lead to their child feeling fulfilled and inspired to create a life they love as adult. The added bonus is that it may actually lead to the parent feeling more positive and uplifted as well.

The new generation of children, known as millennium children, are more sensitive, emotional and reactive. They require ‘care’ and parenting that fits their sensitivities and personalities. Part of that care is choosing the right language and words. By knowing how words and language can affect a child a parent will be able to assist a child to develop in mind, body and spirit which will leave them feeling empowered.

Disempowering words

These are words that feel limited, unenthusiastic and result in arguments and challenges. These words include:

  • should
  • have to
  • must
  • got to
  • ought to
  • must
  • need

These words leave a child feeling guilt, distrust and punishment. As a result, a child may not feel positive about themselves or feel encouraged to try anything new.

Power words

Power words encourage and empower children to work out their problems. This supports them to become self-responsible and assist them take positive action with the knowledge that they can achieve anything they desire.

Power words are also a great tool for a parent to use when asking a child to do their homework, clean their room, play lovingly and share their emotions.

Power words include:

  • want
  • feel
  • like
  • can
  • will
  • choose

All children, especially teenagers, love these words! When offered power words, there is a feeling of choice, a feeling of anything is possible and an innate knowing in a child that all will be OK.

Examples include:

“If you want to play on the trampoline, then put your shoes away.”

“How would you like to clean your room?”

“Yes, you can have play time once you make your bed.”

“Choose to eat your dinner first then you can play.”

Empowering words about wealth

Take the everyday concept of money and wealth as an example of language that can be empowering or disempowering. How many times when you were achild did you hear the words ‘we can’t afford it’? These words would not seem like they can do any damage, but they do. The simple phrase ‘can’t afford’ can leave children feeling like there is not enough or there is a shortage in life. They may also teach a child not to look for wealth and abundance in life. 

Using a language of wealth however, will empower both parents and children. Examples include:

  • Life is an opportunity.
  • Look at the abundance everywhere – see the trees with lots of leaves.
  • Taxes that are paid pay for all the roads and schools.
  • There is always enough.
  • It is not about asking how, it is about knowing it always works out.

This language allows a child to access their creative right brain and see the wealth in all things. This will then set them up to expect an abundant future.

Parents and power words

Children learn by watching their parents will subliminally learn and practice power words. When we delete the ‘should’ and ‘have to’ and replace them with empowering words the whole family will invite more fun, ease and happiness into their life.


Written by

Jean Sheehan / Expert on Child Empowerment

Jean Sheehan is the founder of Millennium Education and Millennium Children®. A former nurse, she is an award-winning expert on child empowerment. Using revolutionary and effective techniques, Jean works with parents and teachers to assist them to consider all aspects of children’s care including the physical mental, emotional, chemical and spiritual. She is also the author of The Millennium Children® and Empowering Millennium Children®.

For more information on Jeans events, please see millenniumeducation.com.

Please login to comment
  • No comments found

You may also like