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Feeling frazzled by the pandemic? It’s okay to scream

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Motherhood can be pretty exhausting at times, but add the coronavirus pandemic into the juggle of family and work life and you might be feeling so drained you want to scream.

Except that you can’t. You’ve got to hold yourself together because there are children to raise, careers to develop and a never-ending cycle of washing, cleaning, shopping, bill paying … Raise your hand if you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed from all that’s happened in the past two years.

It’s okay, you’re not alone.

A group of mothers meet to scream

So frazzled by the pandemic, a group of mothers in Boston, Massachusetts in the United States, threw in the dish cloth and headed to a local high school football field. They gathered to indulge in one of the few pleasures still available to them — a long, deep, primal scream.

 

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Word of ‘the scream’ had spread online and in local mothers’ groups. Then, at the appointed time, they emerged from the shadows and took their place on the field.

These mothers had not only escaped stacking the dishwasher and folding the laundry, they had left behind tiny, tired eyes begging for another reading of Guess How Much I Love You and Goodnight Moon.

The event was organised by Sarah Harmon, a mental health counsellor, yoga teacher and mother. She is also the founder of the School of Mom, an online community and resource for mothers.

Harmon said that the group of women screamed and screamed and screamed. Their screams went on for 20 minutes.

A short, sweet, cathartic punch

This was the second round of a primal scream, Harmon said. The first was held in 2021.

“It’s short, sweet and packs a cathartic punch,” she said.

A lot of the women attending the event, including Harmon, were mothers of children under the age of five. They admitted to feeling bitter and acknowledged that while it was difficult to be anyone right now, they found it especially hard parenting a small child. Omicron is infiltrating day cares, cancelling play dates and testing their sanity, and just like in Australia, children under five years are too young to be vaccinated.

Harmon told The New York Times her children were driving her “absolutely nuts” during the pandemic.

Once the women’s shyness evaporated into the cold night air, they openly shouted about the feelings they had kept hidden.

“Anxiety!” one mother yelled.

“Guilt!” said another.

Frustration. Bitterness. Resentment. Isolation … The words were coming thick and fast.

There were different types screams. The first was primal. The second was a profanity scream. There was a free-for-all scream. Another scream was for those mothers who couldn’t attend (and were probably in need of a little scream time).

Could the scream be something of a revolution? As a mother, you are always in charge of other people. The coronavirus pandemic has increased anxiety and loneliness among many. Who knows how many women have put a pillow over their face and let loose with a long, purging outcry.

Sure, screaming into a circle isn’t going to change the pandemic. It’s unlikely to fix any of our big picture problems either. But it’s out of control and freeing, and that counts for something.

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By Angela Sutherland
After spending many years hustling stories on busy editorial desks around the world, Angela is now mum of two little ones and owner/editor at Kids on the Coast / Kids in the City. She is an atrocious cook and loves cutting shapes to 90s dance music. Angela is the editor of Kids on the Coast - a free family magazine whats on guide for Kids: things to do, school holiday fun and free activities for kids... Fun attractions, family food & travel, kids health & wellbeing, kids parties venues, parenting, pregnancy & babies, guide for parents. Servicing Brisbane, Gold Coast, Sunshine Coast and beyond, Kids on the Coast is an online guide for parents with kids things to do with kids, schools and education and lifestyle news located on Gold Coast, Sunshine Coast & Brisbane, QLD.

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